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5/24/2018

Notepad: Speak Up!


Notepad: Speak Up!

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Speak Up!

Posted: 02 May 2018 05:27 PM PDT

I took a three-day course on transformation, agility, and leadership. It was called Agile Transformational Leader. There were lots that I learned throughout whole three days. It was a great stop on my professional journey, to step back, and be more mindful of where the journey is taking me. I was in the course with some of the greatest thought leaders of Canadian, and even World, Agile World.

One of the highlights of the three days was to be coached by Michael K. Spayd. I was giving him a hard time, and I was transparent in front of 15 people. It was a first for me. I didn't hold anything back regarding the situation I had. It was a true turning point for me. I was uncomfortable thinking about sharing a real-life situation and be coached on the spot on it. However, it is those moments of uncomfortableness if you cherish and push yourself through that you can grow. People helped too. One of the greatest group of people that I saw gathered, which benefited me to navigate through the uncomfortableness.

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The biggest highlight of the three days for me was learning to Speak Up. Throughout the whole three days, I was learning, being encouraged, and was being asked to Speak Up! There were instances that my team encouraged me to speak up. It was moments that I spoke up and observed the reactions. Even if people didn't understand my thought process, it wasn't a very big deal. They asked more. However, the feeling of me contributing to achieving was far more elusive, when realized, to lose it again and again. Even if it ended up diverting conversation in a different direction than intended, it was a greater feeling of accomplishment rather than holding in.

You might think to yourself, why is it a big deal? Could it be? To go on a three-day course and the biggest takeaway is to learn to Speak Up. It was for me, and I tell you why. It was the single most feedback I received throughout my professional career. I have been told several times that I know a lot of things, and I need to speak up for others to know. If I keep it to myself, not many people can figure out based on the chain reactions what led to it, and appreciate my part in it. It took me a personal journey to internalize that and be changed in the moment and amongst the trusted friends.

Put this alongside what I learned at Agile Transformational Leader, Speak Up, with what I learned at Problem Solving Leadership back then, Ask Questions, Please! and it becomes a magical recipe for success.

It is worth mentioning that other people that took the PSL had the same thought and reaction about this course as myself. We were mentioning that this course could have similar effects on our journey even after three days of the in-class training.

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5/01/2018

Notepad: My Notes from Christopher Avery's Responsibility Process


Notepad: My Notes from Christopher Avery's Responsibility Process

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My Notes from Christopher Avery's Responsibility Process

It isn't enough how many times you hear about Responsibility Process. I have learned it years ago when Christoper was giving his keynote at Toronto Coach Retreat (it was the same session I presented Simple Coaching Model as well). However, I decided to refresh my knowledge and attend one of his webinars, in which he talks about the Responsibility Process and he is trying to convince you to buy his educational module. This is a great personal tool to use for yourself. However, coaches, scrum masters, and other leaders please do not try to use this on others.

  • That just it is around here! Justify usually has Just in it.
  • The smarter we are the better stories we create for blame and justify, unrelated to IQ, culture, race etc. 
  • Shame is just "lay blame" on self! 
    • I should have ...
    • Getting out of shame: Ask yourself how long you want to beat yourself up being a human
  • Obligation:
    • If you stop beating yourself up
    • have to, don't want to
    • trapped, being stuck
    • do you have some stupid meeting you are going to? you have to?
    • do you have some stupid paperwork you have to? have to have to have to? 
    • how many time of the day you say have to? 
  • language reveals a lot about our cognitive processes 
  • you are the architect of your own reality! 
  • catch yourself saying have to, what else to say? I am going to go to this meeting (instead of having to)
  • Responsibility 
    • choice and freedom 
    • the ability to respond
    • overcome something big in your life 
  • Responsibility Process:
    • there is nothing to change it (the process is there)
    • move bottom to top every time
    • develop a responsibility practice
  • 3 keys
    • intention: wanting + belief 
The following are some of the slides that I found important and a video from Christopher.




















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